The most rewarding feeling in the world is knowing that my presence makes my baby happy. Seeing that big smile light up when I walk into the room melts my heart. Maybe he's just hungry for my milk, but whatever, I’ll take it.
I would have to say time management is one of my biggest challenges. I’ve always been that person who thinks I can get anywhere in 15 min. This coupled with getting a baby dressed, in his bucket and out the door... might as well skip the music class all together. But in all seriousness, budgeting my time has been difficult given that I am a working mom while trying to be as active and involved as possible in Xander’s day to day life. Being a mom has taught me that time is precious, and you need to be extra vigilant about organizing your daily routine to ensure that everything is taken care of. I am still trying to figure it out, but isn’t that what this entire mom thing is about?!
Comfort is key baby!!! If pants don’t have at least 80% spandex I am not putting them on. Since Xander is the king of spitting up - his bib game is strong but unfortunately my silk blouses have started to collect dust in my closet. On my working days, I’ll throw on a great cashmere sweater and a pair of heels on my way out the door. Otherwise I am in a stretchy pair of Mother Jeans (no pun intended) , a clean tee and pair of sneakers. Having a great scarf, a cool leather jacket, and a nice handbag goes a long way, and tends to distract ppl from the mess that is underneath it all.
It’s an ongoing balancing act, with a whole lot of guilt being dished at me in every direction. It's definitely a learning process coping with the internal guilt that you’re always going to be missing something. It’s like the worst case of FOMOs that never goes away. What's worked best for me is delegating time to focus on work and time to focus on being a mom. It’s always going to be challenging, but I just remind myself, that showing Xander that his mom is a hard working female entrepreneur is something he will hopefully respect and admire one day.
Also I have an amazing support team around me which really helps. My husband Marc is an unbelievable father, he's an extremely involved hands on dad who helps out with any task that needs to get done.
Not to mention my wonderful superstar parents who are always making the constant effort to call, visit, babysit and provide words of wisdom, which is especially necessary when Marc and I have our bi-weekly parental melt down.
HOW DID YOU COME UP WITH YOUR KIDS' NAMES?
Marc came up with it early on in my pregnancy and it just stuck. Figured if we like it 9 months later then it was our "boys name". Also was convinced I was having a girl, so never in a thousand yrs did I think we would use it. Total side bar, the only other time I've ever heard of the name was on my favourite childhood show, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Xander Harris #coolname #notsocoolcharacter
Xander once sharted all over me in an airport lounge before boarding a plane to Portugal, so there's that.....
As long as there is sun, a body of water, and some cocktails - we’re good :) I am sure once Xander starts walking our priorities may change slightly. But until then...
SUNDAY NIGHT TRADITION? IF NOT, ANY FUN FAMILY TRADITIONS?
Saturday is our family day together, it's the only day of the week that both Marc and myself are off work. It's kind of our "free hall pass" day. The rest of the week Xander is on a tight schedule, so we try to give ourselves 1 day a week to slightly break the rules, and enjoy the day together. Whether it's going out for brunch with friends, or hanging out with his cousins and grandparents, we try to switch it up and do the fun things we've always liked doing.
HOW DO YOU FIND TIME FOR YOURSELF? WHAT'S YOUR IDEAL GIRLS' NIGHT?
I make sure to stay grounded by hanging out with girlfriends. It’s so easy to get caught up in this mommy life, and quite frankly over analyzing every minute detail about your baby can be exhausting and quite boring. I like to turn that part of my brain off a few hours a week and go out and catch up with friends over several 9oz glasses of wine.
I think the key is to share, but not over share. This is definitely tricky, bc when do you draw the line? I always had an open profile on instagram until I had Xander, then I locked that shit up. I also never thought I would be a mom who only posted pics of their baby, but I am guilty as charged. What can I say, he is cuter than me and gets way more likes! #whoiscounting
Zero judgment, sleep when you can, and treat yourself to the small things.
Also, I think the most important life lesson that I’ve taken away so far from this motherhood gig, is that it’s so important to stay true to who you are. Your life gets flipped upside down when you enter this crazy journey of raising a human. Somehow you need to figure out how the old you meshes with this new super responsible, selfless, version of yourself. I try to do the small things that still make me feel normal, while trying to balance my new busier lifestyle.
Overfeeding Xander. I swear he is a bottomless pit and will eat whatever we give him. That being said 2.5 hrs to digest 16oz of milk and a jar of peas before bed time was just not a good idea. Projectile barfing, exorcist style, all over his beautiful neutral nursery :( Needless to say, I fear he will never get to enjoy a cup of pea soup from United Bakers thanks to me, sorry Xan!!