Kate Taylor Martin, founder of superfood snack café nutbar and mama to Freddie. Kate, featured in a photoshoot with Trish Mennell Photography, talks to us about all things motherhood, finding that work-life balance and so much more.
K: He’s almost through his first year of life and watching the transformation that’s taken place in this little human over the last 10 and a half months has brought the purest joy. The simplest things are endlessly fascinating. Motherhood slows things down, encourages reflection and introspection, elevates the good, amplifies the bad, and makes you feel like your heart could just explode . The challenges for me are all wrapped up in the realties of caring for, and thinking about, this little helpless being 24/7 and the loss of independence as I used to know it.
K: It seems we’re all striving to find that perfect balance, but I think in reality it looks more like a “balancing act” – a constant and fluid leaning into one which in turn means tilting away from the other. Something has always got to give: you’re either missing a meeting because you wanted to be there to put your baby to bed, or you’re ordering take out because you didn’t have a second to get groceries. However, I have a career that energizes and excites me and so I’ve come to terms with the undercurrent of feelings that we just can’t do it all.
K: Freddie has given my life and perspective another dimension. I now see myself through his eyes and it makes me think about what I’m contributing to the world and what I’m teaching him. That’s a really big motivator.
K: Yes! It’s much more casual! Every time I see a great pair of heels there’s a voice in my head saying “.. but when would you wear those?”
K: I was reading an article shortly after we found out I was pregnant and came across the name Frederick. I loved that it was classic and a little different and meant “peaceful ruler”. My husband was on board when I noted “Freddie” as the potential nickname. His middle name, Jameson, was his paternal great great grandmothers maiden name and has been carried through all subsequent generations.
K: 7Numbers on the Danforth. It’s close to wear we live, casual, cozy and delicious.
K: Our family cottages in Georgian Baby and Cape Cod (not only because they’re our favourite places on earth, but also because the extra set of grandparents hands never hurts).
K: It’s cliché but it’s true: you just have to prioritize time for yourself. Whether it’s booking a workout like an actual meeting, making dates with your girlfriends or sending calendar invites to your husband that you’ll be “out of commission,” time for yourself can’t (always) take a back seat. Ideal girls night is sweats, indulgent food, wine, good chats and is of course baby-free :)
K: I think the best advice I can give is to lead by intuition and by what feels most natural. There is a crazy and overwhelming world of blogs, guidebooks and how- to’s, but I think mothers have a strong intuition for what’s right for them and their children. I actually think sometimes reading nothing is the best way to go – too much information muddles our intuitive reactions or inner compass. I think we’re overcomplicating things.