WHAT IS THE MOST REWARDING THING ABOUT BEING A MOTHER? BIGGEST JOYS? BIGGEST CHALLENGES?
The most rewarding thing about being a mother is the privilege to know a love so pure it is unlike any other. That pure love naturally comes with joys that are hard to put into words but can be as simple as waking up to my daughter softly kissing my face saying with the sweetest of voices, ‘I love you, mummy.’ But what’s so interesting about being a mother is that joyful, beautiful moment can take almost the complete opposite direction the very next day with my daughter prying open my eyes with her dagger like fingers while wailing, ‘I hate pyjamas - change me now!’
The beauty and the challenges become intertwined and as strange as it may sound, the magic of motherhood is in the mess of it all.
WHAT HAVE YOU LEARNED ABOUT BALANCING MOTHERHOOD WITH YOUR CAREER?
That balance is something you practice in yoga class…. Owning my own businesses and being a single mother means that I work incredibly hard to do my best without a focus on putting things in perfect categories to allow for a life that resembles a balanced one. I strive for a life full of happiness, success, family and love all jumbled up into one.
WHAT WAS THE INSPIRATION BEHIND YOUR BLOG COCO AND COWE? ANY PARTICULAR FEATURES/STORIES/INTERVIEWS THAT HAVE BEEN A HIGHLIGHT?
Coco & Cowe is inspired by life and all of the things that make it beautiful. We are lovers of art, food, photography, literature, fashion and mostly telling stories about people, things and experiences that move us. My favourite stories are ones that inspire, I especially love to tell stories about women who find a way to live their lives on their own terms and trail blaze for other women.
One of my favourite interviews was with photographer/illustrator Garance Dore. She’s not only effortlessly stylish, her voice is so authentic and she shares from her heart. Her blog is major #goals.
DO YOU FIND THAT YOUR PERSONAL STYLE HAS CHANGED SINCE YOU'VE BECOME A MOM?
I want to say no but yes, it unfortunately has. I don’t wear heels as much anymore basically because my little girl is fast and I’d like to avoid breaking my ankle…
WHERE DID YOU FIND INSPIRATION FOR YOUR DAUGHTER'S NAME?
I wish it was a romantic story but Harlowe’s dad and I literally bought name books, went through them, made a spreadsheet and it was process of elimination from there. Her middle name is Lake because her eyes were big and deep blue from when she was born, so that’s a little more thoughtful.
QUOTE THE WORST/FUNNIEST THING YOUR CHILD HAS EVER SAID.
She has vehemently resisted cutting her hair until two days ago at a play date when she came up to me in a very loud voice and said: “Mummy, why won’t you cut my hair? It keeps getting stuck in my bum!”
GO-TO FAMILY RESTAURANT IN TORONTO?
Anything that serves pizza. Seriously. H will smash an entire one on her own. From a slice at Pizza Nova to a Margarita at Buca, she loves them all.
FAVE FAMILY VACATION?
Harlowe and I recently went with my parents, sister and four of my best friends to Jamaica and stayed in villa very close to the town that I was born. I’m really close with my family and my friends have been the same since forever so it was like a big family reunion in a place that’s very special to me.
SUNDAY NIGHT TRADITION? IF NOT, ANY FUN FAMILY TRADITIONS?
Almost every other Sunday evening Harlowe and I head over to my parents house to have dinner with my sister and brother and his kids. My mother is an excellent cook so we usually have a feast and the kids just run around like maniacs having the time of their lives.
HOW DO YOU FIND TIME FOR YOURSELF? WHAT'S YOUR IDEAL GIRLS' NIGHT?
My workouts are my daily alone time and I schedule them in advance so I don’t let other things take their spot. With my girlfriends, (when we can all coordinate our schedules) I love checking out new restaurants, having a great glass of wine and some real conversation.
WITH THE POWER AND INFLUENCE OF SOCIAL MEDIA SUCH AS INSTAGRAM, HOW DO YOU DRAW THE LINE ABOUT WHAT YOU THINK IS APPROPRIATE TO POST OF YOUR CHILDREN? AS A MOTHER DO YOU ENJOY AND/OR FIND IT BENEFICIAL TO SHARE PHOTOS AND VIDEOS OF YOUR FAMILY ON SOCIAL MEDIA PLATFORMS?
I have to resist the over-share with pictures of Harlowe. Though she’s way more popular than me on my feed (lol) I try and use as much discretion as possible and always ask myself - will she murder me when she’s eighteen if I post this?
I also like to use Social to share real moments so that people don’t only get a glimpse of the ‘perfect’ stuff, I think that’s super important to share as a mother because the pressure to do it all, have it all, be it all, to everyone and everything is real and I don’t want to be a part of portraying that narrative.
ANY LAST WORDS OF WISDOM FOR OUR FELLOW NEW MOMS?
You’re amazing. There should be a reward for you, daily. But because there isn’t I am virtually slow clapping for all of you who are singlehandedly responsible for the perpetuation of our society. For real. Motherhood is awesome, and rewarding and incredible, all on its own but it is also fantastically challenging and thankless and can potentially leave you weary - riddled with guilt. I’m here to say thank you, you’re beautiful and inspiring and special and way more than enough.